"Common Ground": my little corner of the blogosphere where I talk (a lot-wink) about the things that matter most to me: My relationship with my Lord & Savior, Jesus Christ, homeschooling, adoption, homemaking, parenting, "spousing." (yeah, yeah....I know that's not a word.....I made it up-it’s my blog-I can do things like that! Ha!)

Since my life isn’t all that different from yours, hopefully we can find some COMMON GROUND & learn from each other. Please share your thoughts!

Through the Lords’s mercies we are not consumed, Because His compassions fail not.

They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness!
Lam. 3: 22 & 23

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Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Adoption Thoughts are Rattling Around in my Brain Again!

I have thought much on blessings the Lord has brought us by “having to adopt.” (I put that in quotes, because when many people say that, they mean it in such a negative way-as in, “You couldn’t get pregnant, so you HAD TO ADOPT.”)

But, as I have said many times before, Dave & I feel privileged that this is a journey we were allowed to embark on.

One other good thing about adoption is that it has helped our marriage in many ways.

Here is one way:

Imagine being asked all sorts of questions about you, your marriage & your child-rearing philosophies/techniques:

Questions like:
“What are some of the strengths of your marriage?”

“What are some of the weaknesses & how are you tying to improve them?

“What was it about your childhood you appreciated the most?

“Are there ways you childrearing differs from your upbringing?”

“What strengths/weaknesses do you & your spouse bring to your family?”


You would think that this couple was going through some sort of marriage counseling, wouldn’t you?

But, no, it was in our adoption training we were asked all these types of questions (& more!!!)

So, around 7 years into our marriage, we were forced to examine ourselves with a fine-toothed comb. (No "Seven Year Itch" for us-ha!!! ha!!)

& now, I am so thankful-because I see so many couples STRUGGLE in their relationships around that time-but we were drawn closer together-through the trials we experienced.

What a blessing!

(Ok…..while trying to find a picture to go with this post……I realized we NEVER get our pic taken w/out the kids-the last time was on our tenth anniversary get-away-a whole YEAR ago!!! Yikes! Surely we can do better than that!!!)



P.S. Could you all give me some feedback on weather or not you like the words centered or left-hand justified? Thanks!
P.S.S: Have I mentioned that I love my "Followers?!" (On the left side of my blog!) I picked up another one recently......& that THRILLS me! (If you are a blogger, too, you know just what I'm feeling, right? Ha!)

4 comments:

Michelle Riggs said...

Love the picture and post. Adoption is my all-time favorite topic. :-)

Leslie said...

When I post I like to mix it up a bit. Sometimes I center it, sometimes it's left (or right) hand justified.

You and your husband are truly blessed with your children. I consider them a gift no matter how we get them!

Great questions that you were asked. I think all couples could benefit from answering those kinds of questions before they embark on the job of parenting.

I love followers too!

btw... how did you like the Disney Cruise? Would you recommend it for families with teens?

Laurel said...

Great post and terrific picture of you two. I just love your hair with bangs; it softens your face and makes you look even younger!

Anna said...

Great post Kim and I agree with you as we found the same thing...we found the whole assessment process for adoption quite a positive and helpful thing as we reflected on our marriage, upbringing etc. Glad we weren't the only ones:)

And just been catching up on all your posts...I love all the photos in your 'Beautiful Gifts' post...the kids look great in their outfits.

Take care,

Anna

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